Almost every day I see an article or a post about the differences between moms. Almost every day one group or another is advocating why their job is the hardest or why their way is the best.
Most of the time after reading such an article I do not walk away feeling encouraged or feeling unified with fellow moms but rather find myself asking the wrong questions. Am I doing this right? Does she think I’m spoiled because I stay at home? Did I hurt my friends’ feelings when I talked about working outside the home? Am I an awful mom because my kids had two ice creams after dinner that I picked up in the drive-thru? Do my kids have too many toys?
You get the point.
The focus is in the wrong place, our differences. But really we are the same me and you. Whether we breastfeed or bottle feed, our meals are from a drive-thru or all organic, we stay at home or work outside the home, we had natural births or c-sections, whether we spank or use time-outs, we are doing the same thing. We are giving our all to our children.
We are getting up every morning with tasks to complete, kids to take care of, dinners to provide and a home to manage. We are busting our butts every day to ensure our kids are taken care of. We end some days with a feeling of accomplishment and satisfaction and other days we end the day feeling discouraged and defeated. A lot of times we find ourselves tired and lonely. Let’s pull together. Let’s start seeing ourselves for what we really are.
Let’s begin to celebrate each other and our beautiful jobs as mothers. We are special. Yes! We are special. We are an elite group of women raising the next generation. We are watching minds and bodies grow. We are witnessing babies mature and grow into independent beings. We have a front row seat to the greatest miracle on earth. We get to watch little minds discover new things, struggle to find solutions to problems, battle with controlling emotion, and yet find joy in every day. We get to witness unconditional love at its finest. No one has or will ever love me the way my kids do and the love I have for them is indescribable. I am proud and ecstatic to be apart of your group.
No matter what our differences may be, we too have a bond like none other.
Let’s face it.
No one else gets me like you do. No one else understands what I mean when I say I am tired from getting up all hours of the night with a baby and then having a toddler ready for breakfast at 5:30am. No one else understands my worry when I have a sick child. No one else can understand “mom guilt” or agonizing over details and decisions to know I am “doing it right”. No one else can see me in public with a child having a meltdown and know what I’m thinking and feeling. It is you that understands.
Fellow moms out there, you are the ones that can help a discouraged, tired, lonely mom because you understand. You are the ones that can truly celebrate the victory of potty training, getting that new job, finally working out for days in a row, or getting that allusive “mom time”. In some strange way it is your support that matters.
I guess because we are part of the same group. We are a part of something that can be so wonderful and so difficult all within the same hour. So let’s lay our petty differences aside and understand that we are really just the same. We are on the same team. It is a relay race and we are all in it together! So today as I’m typing this with a 2 year old grabbing my face with sticky fingers, I celebrate you! Regardless if you are a stay at home mom, working outside the home, breastfeeding, formula feeding, driving through for dinner or preparing a home made healthy meal, I’m proud of you! You are doing it! You are making a difference. You are thriving even when it feels like you are barely surviving. Be proud and enjoy the victories and dust off the hard days.
You are momma strong.
YOU GO GIRL!!!
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