This blog, Messes And Memories, is in the beginning stages. So far, I have shared with you some of my success stories. They have included home management tips like maintaining a clean house, parenting victories like creating a peaceful home, recipes and even a DIY update. But that is only one side of the story. Before I get too far along with this blog, I want to clear a few things up. I want to be VERY real. Let’s get real about parenting.
With the ever growing popularity of social media a dangerous deception lurks in the background. That danger is to take what we see on a blog, Facebook, or Instagram and assume we are seeing the entire story. We compare our own lives to this assumed perfection. “Wow, she has three kids and always has a clean house.” FALSE. “She never yells at her kids?” Also, FALSE. “She probably works out every day and only eats clean.” Again, False. So very false.
We begin to discount our own successes and magnify our failures. This can lead to unrealistic expectations, anxiety, low self-esteem, or even depression that could eventually become life threatening. I read several articles on the Huffington Post discussing this very issue telling story after story about students and women falling into deep depression because they felt they didn’t measure up or that the grass was so much greener on the other side. I do not want that to happen here. At Messes And Memories, I want to get real with you. What you will see on this blog is part of my story and I will address why I choose to share my success stories but first….
- I lose my temper and yell at my kids. Talk about terrible mom guilt after.
- I wear dirty yoga pants all day because I can and I’m too lazy to change.
- Sometimes I fear my car has something growing in the back because it is SO messy.
- I can be moody and sometimes just want to be alone for absolutely no reason.
- Another fault? I get mad at my husband for stupid things and would rather have the flu than admit I was wrong. I’m a little stubborn. **Hoping maybe he will skip reading this post?
- I leave my house a mess at night sometimes because I would rather watch trashy television like Real Housewives or The Bachelor.
- On more than one occasion I will hide to eat the last ice cream because I’m that selfish.
- I get my feelings hurt too easily but you would never know it.
- I’m so type A that changing my plans at the last minute annoys me way more than it should.
- My self-confidence is horrible and it drives my family crazy.
Are these all of my faults? Ha! I wish! But I want you to have a glimpse into the other side of the story. Don’t fall into the trap of believing someone is better than you or that the grass is that much greener on the other side. We all have strengths and we all have weaknesses. It is a part of life and I am learning that accepting both makes for a happier person.
Earlier I told you I would address why I will share positive stories, successes and helpful tips on this blog. We can be real and own every part of who we are and still strive for greatness. I may not be perfect but I am going to fight, work and push to be the best version of myself. The fight won’t happen every day and sometimes I will lose but I will continuously get back up. Over, and over, and over. We can still work to be better, we can help each other overcome those weaknesses and we can still celebrate our victories together. Right? It doesn’t make us not “real” but shows where are heart is and that we still have fight left in us.
What you will see on this blog are not areas I have perfected but areas in which I may have found success or areas that I fail in but am determined to improve upon. Messes And Memories is a dream for me. Something, honestly, I am afraid of in a way but choosing to pursue anyway. My hope for this blog is that it becomes a community. A place we learn from each other and encourage and support one another. So comment, email, and share. Ask questions, give advice, or simply say hello. It is what will make this blog unique and a benefit to all of us. I really hope I was able to portray my intended message and I hope to hear from you soon.