Oh Valentine’s Day. Some love this day and for others it is a day of disappointment. No matter your current relationship status, Valentine’s Day can still be a positive and happy celebration. This is the message I want to send to my children as they spend many Valentine’s Days with me. As my kids mature into independent adults I want them to understand 5 important lessons about love.
This of course is not an inclusive list of lessons on love but it is a list I will return to each Valentine’s Day. I intend to use February 14th each year as a way to lay a foundation of love that I hope they will carry with them through their adult lives. Some Valentine’s Days will be spent with flowers and chocolates and others with broken hearts but hopefully they will find comfort and joy looking back to what they learned at home.
Lesson 1: Gods’ love for you is never failing.
The first and most important lesson we can teach our children is that He will always love us. His love is unconditional. It is inevitable that life will have heartache, disappointment, rejection and failure. The ONLY remedy in those times is leaning on a love that is pure, unconditional, never failing and good.
As much as I love my kids there will be times that it just won’t do. It won’t fix their problems or ease their pain but His will. I won’t be saying this to them because I heard it in church somewhere or because it is the “right” thing to say. I will be speaking it from experience. Plans change, relationships come and go, hearts break, lives implode but it is in finding a relationship with Him grounded in His true love that He begins to pick up the pieces and create something much more beautiful than we ever imagined.
Lesson 2: Mom and Dad adore you.
In my opinion every child needs someone in their corner. And not just in their corner but proud to be there. Someone loudly proclaiming their devotion and presence. I plan on being that person. One day they will venture out on their own but they will always know I am here. I am here in the good times and the bad. The minute you call, I am there. I will fight with you and for you. Whatever your latest endeavor, I will be your biggest fan and I will always be ready to catch you if you fall. I love you my kiddos and in an ever changing world that love will endure.
Lesson 3: Know your worth.
What we believe about ourselves can determine the paths we take in life. What effort will our children give in school if they enter the classroom believing they are smart and capable versus the idea that “math” isn’t their thing or they just aren’t that smart? If my daughter is confident in who she is how will that affect her relationships? How will my son handle rejection if he knows his true value? Are you following me? So on this Valentine’s Day and for many after I will spend a little time affirming who my children are, what I admire about them and the importance of character and integrity.
Lesson 4: Loving people will be your greatest treasure.
This lesson goes hand in hand with lesson 3. There will be countless treasures that each of our children carry inside them. Some will be great leaders, some will live with a sincere passion, some will fight for the causes of others, some will be philosophical thinkers and some will pay close attention to the details that matter. Their greatest treasure however is their love for people. If my children are successful in one area in life I pray that it is this…to love people. I could write an entire post just about teaching this lesson and maybe I will. For now, let’s decide as mothers to teach our children to love people. People who are the same, people who are different, people we “click” with, people who make it difficult. I’m thinking our world and country could use a little more of that right now. Anyone agree?
Lesson 5: Love Hard
The last lesson for this Valentine’s Day is to love hard. Time truly does go by so quickly. Don’t take one minute for granted in showing your family and friends how much you love them. Be kind, smile, laugh, be vulnerable, be real, soak it all in. Life can be hard but it can also be so very very good. And the goodness lies within each relationship we have. That’s what really matters. It’s easy to get distracted sometimes but hold fast to those relationships, cherish them and live in those moments.
I’m sure as my kids get older I’ll be adding new and different lessons for Valentine’s Day but for now I’ll start with these. Do you have any Valentine’s Day traditions? What about a lesson to add to my list or a thought on one of the five? Hershey kisses are always a must for me and if you don’t know you can check out this post to find out. 😉 Have a great weekend friends!!